Navigating the Transition: A Guide for Parents of Anxious Learners

Understanding Back-to-School Anxiety

The move to secondary school brings a host of changes: often, a much larger school, new teachers for every subject, a different social dynamic, and an increased academic workload. For an anxious child, these changes can feel overwhelming. They might worry about getting lost, making new friends, or not being able to keep up with the work. These fears are a normal part of the process, but if they become persistent and begin to affect daily life, it is important to address them proactively.

The Challenge of School Refusal

One of the most worrying signs of extreme back-to-school anxiety is school refusal . This is not simply a case of a child being playing up or simply not wanting to go to school. It is a genuine expression of distress, where the thought of attending school causes such intense anxiety that they may experience physical symptoms like stomach aches, headaches, or nausea. This behaviour is a cry for help and a clear indicator that their mental health needs to be the top priority.

Strategies to Support Your Child's Wellbeing

Parents and carers play a crucial role in helping their children navigate this transition. Here are some strategies you can implement to ease the journey:

Open Communication:

Create a safe space for your child to talk about their fears. Listen without judgment and validate their feelings. Reassure them that it is okay to feel nervous and that you are there to support them. Contact school staff such as the pastoral support, form tutor and SENCO, and work together to ensure a plan is in place to support your child with their transition.

Establish a Routine:

A predictable routine can provide a sense of security. In the weeks leading up to the new term, gradually adjust their sleep schedule and morning routine to mimic the school-year rhythm.

Identify any sensory issues early on.

If your child is prone to sensory difficulties, ensure that you approach these before the first day. Encourage them to try on the uniform, so you can figure out if socks are not comfortable enough, or if you need to find softer trousers. Being physically comfortable on the first day will help avoid potential dysregulation. If the school has a bell for break times and the start and end of class, ensure that they are aware of this and know what it will sound like. Consider ear defenders if necessary.

Familiarise Them with the New School:

If possible, walk the route to school together. If there was a transition day, ask them about it and help them remember key locations like their new form room or the lunch hall. Knowing the layout can significantly reduce a child's fear of the unknown. Some schools have several transition days throughout the summer term; hopefully your child will be attending one of these and will have been able to meet future peers and teachers already.

Focus on Strengths and Positives:

Remind your child of their previous successes and what they have to look forward to, such as a new subject they are excited about, reuniting with old friends, or joining a club that interests them.

How Tutoring Can Help

While these strategies are helpful, sometimes a child needs an extra layer of support. This is where a professional tutoring organisation can make a significant difference. Our tutors are more than just academic guides; they are mentors who can:

Boost Confidence: By working through subjects in a low-pressure environment, we can help fill in any gaps in their knowledge, ensuring they feel prepared and capable in the classroom.

Develop Coping Strategies: We can help anxious learners develop effective study habits and time management skills, giving them a greater sense of control over their academic life.

Provide a Consistent Support System: A tutor can be a stable and encouraging presence during a time of great change, offering consistent support that goes beyond just homework help.

The transition to secondary school is a journey. With the right support and understanding, your child will not only survive but truly thrive. If you are concerned about your child's anxiety or school refusal, please reach out to us. We are here to support you on this path.